Book Review ‘Good Vibes, Good Life’ by Vex King.

Self-help books are my personal addiction. If you take me into a book store, guaranteed I will leave with one in hand far too excited. The weekend just passed, I re read ‘Good vibes, good life’ by Vex King. A book I like to turn to for the simplest of reminders. It is not overly complicated. It is full of ideas we inherently already know. It gets me out of my head and reminds me of a perspective I can switch to whenever I have forgotten it.

Here is what resignates with me from the book and what I take from it. I can only speak from my own life & experiences. This may not align with yours, but I hope something in this relates to you.

‘To bring an idea into existence you must match its vibrational frequency… The more real something is to you, the closer you are to it.’

Basically, what you believe will become true. If you believe you are a loser with no friends, you will end up isolated with no friends. If you believe you are loved & a social butterfly, you will be loved and always socialising. I think the main part that I find the most interesting with this is that you’ve got to believe it FIRST. Not after you are proven it’s true. You don’t need 100% examples of you being loved and social to believe you are. You can just believe it now and it will become your reality. I find myself doubting this method when I get super creative with it. So if I believe I’m a famous singer even though I cannot sing what so ever, then I’ll become one? Well I guess the main point here is that YOU have to BELIEVE it. Like actually believe it. When you truely think it’s gonna happen for you, you wont stop at anything until it does. All your actions will align with it.

An area I do a lot of this in, is my way of living. I believe I am a healthy, fit, energetic person. Therefore I am. I have had my issues with my relationship to movement in the past. When my belief was I am not sporty or athletic, guess what, I wasn’t. My fitness and enjoyment to move only came back when I believed I was just that kind of person.

I also do this through manifesting. Write something to be true and it becomes true. I journal out my manifestations small or big. I write as though they have already happened. I might write – ‘I felt so happy and good all day.’ Then without thinking about it, naturally my brain goes looking for reasons why I feel good all day and all of a sudden I felt good all day. You could also manifest your future (In 2030 I will…). The options are endless really. It might seem a little woo woo, but once you do it and it works, it’s pretty hard to stop doing it.

‘To receive good vibes we must project good vibes.’

Basically, what you give is what you get. In yoga we call this karma. The feelings we project (feelings are of positive and negative energy) are returned back to us. If you feel joyful you experience joy back. Have you ever been so high on life and everything is just so so good. Your normal walk to work is euphoric, the sky seems bluer, the sun feels better, people seem nicer. You were projecting joy & therefore experiencing it back. It’s up to you how far you take this one. I am a huge believer in it and it works for me. I use it all the time. I just become what I want to receive. I I want to be loved deeply, then I love others deeply. If I want to be heard, then I listen to others. It goes on and on. I love this one cause it stops us blaming the world and makes us look at our own actions and what is within our control.

‘Choose real friendships… Simplify your circle of friends.’

I used to think the more friends the better and then feel spread too thin when I had too many people to tend to. To be a true friend, there is a lot of support, time and energy that goes into it. We only have so much of that to give. If you are putting that into someone who isn’t putting it into you, it’s not being appreciated. We need to be honest with ourselves.

Would they show up for you if you needed them. No matter what? Do they hype you up when you achieve something? If it’s a no, put your energy into someone who would show up for you instead. Don’t stand in your own way of receiving back what you give. Focus on the people who reciprocate your energy. Notice who those people are and deepen those friendships.

When you are feeling super happy or positive and someone tries to bring you down, use that to filter out the people who are negative in your life. Positivity is intimidating to negative people. It is the perfect filter. Surround yourself with positive people, not negative ones.

‘A person who accepts themself as they are can inspire the world.’

My last takeaway from the book, BE YOURSELF. I love this reminder so so much. You are perfect. Be yourself. As soppy as it is, it’s so so so so true. When I am around someone completely themselves, I love them instantly. I want to talk to them & be around them. I feel like I can breathe when I am near them. Because I know they fully accept me too. When you accept yourself, you accept others. Every time I stop worrying about what people are thinking of me, my life gets 1000 times better. It is far less draining and I can use that energy I haven’t wasted on worry, to bring more positivity into my life. If someone is judging you, you don’t want them in your life anyway.

So basically…